One of the most difficult things to deal with is the constant flow of negative self talk that most of us engage in.  We are constantly judging ourselves, calling ourselves names and, in general, not being kind to ourselves.

When you recognize that you’re making a negative/derogatory comment about yourself, stop what you’re doing and come up with three positive things about yourself that negate the nasty talk in your head.

This is called the Three For One Rule and I learned it from my therapist.

For example, if I hear myself say, “I’m Stupid”, I stop, recognize the thought and come up with three positive statements that cancel the negative thoughts: “I’m intelligent”, “I have a Master’s degree”, and “I am a good problem solver”.

The trick is catching yourself using negative self talk.  Most of us have become so accustomed to it that just noticing it is a real eye opener.

So listen to how you talk to yourself and be kind.What are some things you tell yourself that aren’t true?  Please let me know in the Comments below.

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